Friday, December 30, 2011
Would listen to God's voice and obey Him (through His word and prayer), put others first, and attain a self-confidence in their identity that reflects God's image and a life-style that reflects what He created them to be/do.
What more can a mother and father ask for? Now that we have a target for them, it allows us to aim for something that is meaningful. Part of that is adapting a common language in our home. These are top statements that our kids will hear until we die.
Alexanders always tell the TRUTH.
Alexanders show COMPASSION to everyone.
Alexanders are RELIABLE. We keep our word.
Alexanders use SELF-CONTROL, no matter what.
Alexanders are HUMBLE. We don't brag or show off.
Alexanders are STRONG. We never give up.
Alexanders make WISE choices. We reflect Him.
Alexanders like to have FUN!
10. Girls learn how to ride bike without training wheels in about 15 minutes
9. Experiencing snow days in ATL (out of school for 1 week)
8. Ringing in the New Year with Jason and Jacqueline Barieau!! Whoot Whoot
7. Driving with a dog, guinea pig, and 3 kids in mini van from ATL to PHX
6. Spending Halloween and Thanksgiving with Nanna and Pappa
5. Spring Break in ATL with the McGinnis Clan!!! Best time ever!
4. Closing on our house in Gilbert, AZ 1 month before Paul lost his job! LOL
3. Being Fired for 1st time ever.......from a church! crazy!!
2. Celebrating 15 years of Marriage and going to Hawaii!
1. Being asked to come serve at Sun Valley Community Church in Gilbert, AZ
So there you have it! Our lives in a nutshell in 2011. Bring on 2012!! What is in store for us?
Sunday, December 25, 2011
Christmas isn't the only time in life to keep that balance. It's challenging all year. Each time we have company over, the kids want to give away a toy or some trinket from their room. Sometimes they go into their piggy banks and give their friends money. A few years ago, when they first started doing this, I was inclined to step in and politely ask them not to give. But then I realized that there isn't a toy in their room that they can't live without. They are just toys! They aren't always so giving when it comes to 'eachother', but so glad to see them sharing with their friends. Glad to see them letting go of their possessions so easily. Wish it was always that easy for Paul and I.
Two experiences that stick out in my mind and remind me to chill out, happened last year. We were at a friend's house and my kids were wrestling on someone's 'new furniture' and it bothered the owners greatly. I couldn't help but wonder what on earth the couch was there for. When kids visit our home, I try and remember that it's more important that the guests feel welcome than my house remain in perfect condition. People are always more important than my stuff. Another situation was when Linc. wanted to hold an older boy's book last year. The mother bent down and whispered for the boy to put it away cause Linc. would probably break the book. Wow! I know kids do have valuable possessions and keep those put up from toddlers. But when we encourage our kids to hold tight to those simple things that can easily be replaced, what will happen when kids have something more valuable, like money? Will they share it?
Of course these are random experiences and I'm sure both situations can be properly defended to the death; but generally speaking, you get the point? I think we can always find an excuse to hold tight and keep things to ourselves. It's hard to let go, share at all costs, and play nicely.........as adults. Our kids are direct reflections of us, often. They learn from us. We can be amazing teachers...if we want :)
Our kids have always been told the truth. Christmas is about the birth of Christ and Santa does not exist. Do I regret omitting Santa from Dec. 25th??? Sometimes. Whether you celebrate Santa or not, the important thing is that the kids walk away appreciating the birth of Christ, not just knowing that it happened. Santa can be fun, like anything else that is magical and/or pretend. It's just a matter of balance and moderation. As parents we get caught up in the minor details and can become distracted in any event, whether it's Christmas, bdays, Easter, or just plain old life! The birth of Christ can be celebrated every day of the year, not just Dec.25. We love the Jesus Story Bible cause it is always pointing the reader back to the coming of Christ. Everything we do with our kids including cooking, riding bikes, arguments, bdays, shopping, funerals, cleaning rooms..........whatever it is..........there is always time to talk about Christ and what He is doing in our lives today. So Santa or not? Does it matter? This year we want to take time to appreciate the birth and the resurrection in all we do and in all we have.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
"Next week when I'm an adult, I'll charge my husband to go get me a coffee and muffin too!" Kennedy
"Mia, you can't be selfish all your life! You have to share with your sister!" Kennedy
"Relax Lincoln. Anything that you want....I'll get it!" Mia
"I'm not afraid of anything....except the dark!" Mia
"Man! I"m growing so big.....right now!" Lincoln
"I'm going to get very very mad if I go to timeout and I'm going to break your heart!" Lincoln
"I'm thankful for Dad; he tucks me in every night." Mia
"I wish I could turn time back." Kennedy
"I see the sun coming through the clouds and I think it's God's glory showing through- and the angels are returning." Kennedy
"I'm thankful that C.S. Lewis made the Narnia books." Mia
"After exercising, I'm going to throw up!" Lincoln
"I saw a dragonfly and so I piped up my courage to go and get it. He wanted to be my friend." Kennedy
"I'm thankful for Mrs. Clemson for buying me a banana at school. Everyone else had a cupcake and I can't eat them cause of my allergies and I had nothing." Kennedy
"I don't like when your muffins taste like earwax" Mia
"When no one is around and I have to obey, I feel something inside of me tell what to do- it's the Holy Spirit." Kennedy
"I'm thankful that I got sleep with my mom's blanket." Kennedy
"Why doesn't God talk to me now, like He did with Moses? I want to hear his voice now!" Mia
"I'm thankful for cake!" Lincoln
"I not a baby anymore...I'm a big boy! I'm a man!" Lincoln
"You know me, Mom! I'm an Alexander and I'm going to be okay!" Lincoln
After 15 years, does he drive me crazy? I think we both have days where we drive one another bonkers......kind of like a brother and sister. It's not mean, bitter, or full of spite. It's just 2 people living together who happen to be selfish. But yes, going to Hawaii with him and celebrating 15 years was worth it; and we are growing closer each day. I am still very attracted to him. I find his messages and dreams to be inspiring. I love our conversations. They are not filled with meaningless words and ideas of coexisting. They are words that touch and change our hearts. Conversations about changing lives, kids growing up, taking care of the less fortunate, helping our friends, and sometimes full of heated disagreements. At the end of the day.........we have learned more about one another and chosen to be on the same team. At the end of the day........he is still by best friend and I can't wait to go on another trip in 5 years!! whoot whoot!
Most of my friends thought I had gone clinically insane because we invited my in-laws to stay for 5 weeks. The most common response was "their not staying with you right........in a hotel, right?" Well, after 15 years of marriage, many vacations together and many 2 week visits in the same home.....we decided it was time to spend some more time together. The fact is, both our families live on the other side of the country. Might as well live in Africa cause none of us can afford to come see one another as often as we'd like. We can understand and appreciate how much the grandparents mean to our kids! The LOVE their grandparents and let's be honest.....grandparents are not around forever. We want our kids to soak up as much wisdom and time with their grandparents as possible. Now, I have to admit; we have amazing grandparents. Living together is not as difficult as it could be. Things are not perfect; but we pretty much respect one another's boundaries and appreicate the time together.
The visit was filled with trick or treating, craft projects, sewing together (Nanna and girls), long walks to the park, teaching kids how to ride bikes, P.F. Chang visits, bday celebrations, Christmas shopping, tree decorating, Thanksgiving cooking, snuggles in the kids' rooms, late nights of card games, hot tub talks, putting up lights, making ginger bread houses,wrestling with Pappa, reading with Nanna, and many other endless memories. One just can't put a price tag on the memories that were created last month. We will all treasure those moments forever.
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Today was a bad day but I will fix it.
Okay, so this broke my heart. Yes, it was a full day of kids arguing, endless time outs and many talks.
Thank you for your note. I enjoyed it. I love you. gust for your inforemation- I love you more! Don't even copy me when I say I love you more. have a fun fall break. well, the rest of it. by by.
So yes, I save these notes and hide them away in my Kids' Book of Quotes. I
often pull it out and read the quotes and letters; it's good for my soul. Here is one last letter that KK wrote to Mia, right after we moved from Atlanta, back to Phoenix. Talk about a whirlwind for my kids!!!
I know your scared of going to church. I am but all you have to do is sit next to me at church or just stay home.
This one made me laugh. It took Kennedy about 6 weeks before she would go into her class without crying. She so desperately wanted Mia to go with her, but Mia in in the 1st grade room. It's not smooth as butter, but much better today.
Love to see my girls write about their feelings!!
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Sunday, September 25, 2011
Thursday, September 22, 2011
Got this from a bookmark that was published by Revive our Hears by Nancy Leigh Demoss
Ps. 51:17 The sacrifices of God are of a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, thous will not despise
Proud People = pp
Broken People= bp
pp focus on failures of others, bp overwhelmed with sense of their own spiritual need
pp have critical, fault finding spirit; look at everyone else's faults with a microscope, but their own with a telescope. bp are compassionate, can forgive much because they know how much they have been forgiven
pp are self-righteous, look down on others, bp esteem all others better than themselves
pp are independent, self-sufficient in spirit, bp have a dependent spirit; recognize their need for others
pp have to prove that they are right; bp willing to yield the right to be right
pp claim rights; have a demanding spirit. bp yield their rights and have a meek spirit
pp are self -protective of their time, their rights and their reputation. bp are self-denying
pp desire to be served. bp are motivated to serve others.
pp desire success. bp are motivated to be faithful and to make others succeed!!
pp desire self-advancement. bp desire to promote others
pp have a drive to be recognized and appreciated. bp have a sense of their own unworthiness, thrilled that God would use them at all.
pp wounded when others are promoted and they are overlooked. bp eager for others to get credit; rejoice when others are lifted up
pp have a subconscious feeling, "this ministry/church is privileged to have me and my gifts." they think of what they can do for God. bp heart attitude is "I don't deserve to have a part in any ministry" they know that they have nothing to offer God except the life of Jesus flowing through their broken lives.
pp feel confident in how much they know. bp are humbled by how very much they have to learn
pp are self-conscious. bp are not concerned with self at all!
pp keep others at arms' length. bp are willing to risk getting close to others and to take risks of loving intimately.
pp are quick to blame others. bp accept personal responsibility and can see where they are wrong in a situation.
pp are unapproachable or defensive when criticized. bp receive criticism with a humble, open spirit
pp are concerned with being respectable, with what others think; work to protect their own image and reputation. bp are concerned with being real; what matters to them is not what others think but what God knows; are willing to die to their own personal reputation.
pp find it difficult to share their spiritual need with others. bp willing to be open and transparent with others as God directs
pp want to be sure that no one finds out when they have sinned; their instinct is to cover up. bp, once broken, don't car who knows or who finds out; are willing to be exposed because they have nothing to lose
pp have a hard time saying "I was wrong; will you please forgive me?". bp quick to admit failure and to seek forgiveness when necessary
pp tend to deal in generalities when confessing sin. bp able to acknowledge specifics when confessing their sin
pp concerned about the consequences of their sin. bp grieved over the cause, the root of their sin.
pp are remorseful over their sin, sorry that they got 'found out' or caught. bp truly, genuinely repentant over their sin, evidenced in the fact that they forsake that sin.
pp wait for the other to come and ask forgiveness when there is a misunderstanding or conflict in a relationship. bp take the initiative to be reconciled when there is misunderstanding or conflict in relationships; they race to the cross; they see if they can get there first, no matter how wrong the other may have been
pp compare themselves with others and feel worthy of honor. bp compare themselves to the holiness of God and feel a desperate need for His mercy.
pp are blind to their true heart condition. bp walk in light
pp don't think they have anything to repent of. bp realize they have need of a continual heart attitude of repentance
pp don't think they need revival, but are sure that everyone else does. bp continually sense their need for a fresh encounter with God and for a fresh filling of His Holy Spirit